Dating always breaks down when I mention I had an STI

DEAR DEIDRE: I AM struggling with online dating though I am young, good-looking and very much available.

I’m a woman of 23 but whenever I hit it off with a man, I feel it is only fair to come clean about the fact I have been diagnosed with HPV and have had genital warts in the past.

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From that moment on, they ghost me.

It happened recently with a guy I really liked. We had so much in common.

But once we arranged to meet and I told him about my HPV, he stopped replying to messages.

I can see his profile is still on the dating site.

How do I deal with this? I just want to be honest with people.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Most people will get an HPV infection – of which there are more than 100 different types – at some point in their lives and their bodies will get rid of it naturally without treatment.

But there is a gentler way to inform any potential partners.

Rather than sharing so early on, ensure you have got to know them well first.

To prevent passing on this infection, it is important you talk to your GP or sexual health clinic, where they can advise you on treatments and how to limit transmission.

And please don’t worry about talking to your GP. They are practised in dealing with STIs.

For more information on HPV guidance from the NHS, see

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